Women, my girls, and feminism

I have had some time in the last 2 weeks to read many articles on several "women" issues. It was International Women's Day last Thursday, Newsday had a full issue on Women's Month and summit,  and there has been lots of talk about birth control, abortion, and women in politics.
Now I want to stress a few things. I believe that many issues are "human" issues and not just "women" issues. As I write this, I also want to stress that men should stand with women on most of these issues but not make the decisions for them. I think that women have a voice in men's issues also, but they should not impose their view on men either. I understand that there are biological and societal differences between men and women but respecting each other's point of view is more of the essence then imposing anything on each other.
So I'll get the issues that bother me. First off, I am sick and tired of this birth control issue. It is not a political issue, it is not a religious issue, it is not a medical issue. It is a women's choice issue. Men should stay away from that issue period if they are not willing to let a women choose. A woman who is against birth control and abortion should just not choose to use them. If a woman wants both, that is fine too. If a woman supports one but not the other, again, not an issue. Let a woman decide for herself.
Women and men should not impose their views on others. Western countries are mostly based on freedom of choice and expression. So let women decide for themselves. I'll be accussed of simplifying a huge issue but whatever. I stand behind my opinion. Are there exceptions? Of course. But how would men feel if women decided on who can or cannot get a vasectomy, procure condoms, or even choose for them if they can or cannot father a child?
Secondly, women are not second rate citizens. This is mostly directed to countries and areas where women are mistreated, mutilated, verbally, physically, or sexually abused. But don't think for a second this does not happen here. It is appalling to see how some people treat women as second class citizens, even in "developed" countries. Very sad too.
I had a great role model growing up: my mom. She worked in HR at a telecommunications company for several years. She was also considered a "superior" most of my life at that job. She broke the glass ceiling before there was one and she never looked back. She was a strong woman, who balanced her home life with her professional life. She spent lots of time with me and also did her job professionally and efficiently. She gave everyone the time of day but made difficult decisions when she had too. She even fired my dad, who worked at the same company (they met there)! I never had to think twice about "women in power" and issues with that. In my book, women and men had equal opportunities to get any type of jobs. I thank my mom for this attitude to this day.
Of course, by the time I entered the workforce, I realized perception of men versus women. I am still aware of it to this day...and it saddens me, angers me, scares me. I have two girls who will grow up in this world. I look at the women I consider friends or that I admire and I hear/see/observe all the difficulties they face. I even look at some of my male friends and their misperceptions or even the language they use about women. I also look at how we continue to socialize girls and it scares me. My girls are allowed to like anything they want, dress with any clothes they want, including boys clothes, and express any emotion they want. My girls play rough but love pink and barbies. They don't want "pink" sports uniforms but what the players actually wear. I refuse to box them on gender...but there is a whole lot of people who try to do it. I don't try to stop it, unless it is excessive, but I let them decide what they want. I want to empower my girls, want them to feel they can be what they want to me...but I sometimes worry that this "civilized" society (US, Canada) won't let them.